My therapy for a bothered mind…

We often overlook the good things surrounding us… undermining ourselves of how great life can be. We tend to dwell on things that are not really important. We need to learn how to surpass life’s little way of teasing us… if we keep on our minds that the “Big Guy” who watches over us will not give us anything we cannot bear then we’ll start to see the beauty of life.

We should start learning to appreciate the good things surrounding us. If we keep on wanting for more life will be an unending struggle in wanting what is best.  I am not saying that goals should not be set nor not to aim high… but have you ever asked yourself the real definition of success?  Satisfaction is hardly displayed by any human being. We seem to always want for more… Always remember that a thing can only be as good as it gets on the first day you own it. New things will always come out. If you cannot be contented then you’ll end up dying in search of what is best… If you will ask me, what is the best for me… I would not have an idea… but if you were to ask me if I am contented with the one I have… I would say… Finding the perfect partner is not finding the perfect person. It’s loving the person wholly and seeing him as God’s perfect companion for you. Do not dwell on his imperfections; rather value the good traits he has. The good things he’s done for you… that even if he is not perfect, he is still able to do little things that seem perfect to your eyes…

Be contented or spend the rest of your life searching… Remember that one will always be better than the other… You just have to look beyond what the naked eyes can see… Go pass the surface, try and see what’s hidden within the depths of the person…

everyday i wake up to wait for night time so i can sleep again…

They say actions speak louder than words… but not all the time… words are needed to voice out the actions that are not too clear… either the action is not vivid or the person is blind… it could also be, he/she just doesn’t want to assume things… If love can only be done in black and white to make sure that you are not just imagining things or assuming things… Whew… boy that will be a huge help… no more guesses…

It’s hard to presume that someone loves you just because he does this and that…you can never tell… for all you know he’s just like that… not just with you but with everyone else…

Though he tells you this and that but shows you otherwise or does this and that but tells you otherwise… think twice… before spreading the news and claiming your title… because in the end… you might be reading the wrong signs…

So I stay afloat… waiting till the smoke is gone… I won’t speed up till I can clearly see what’s ahead of me… because if I lose control… there may not be anyone there to rescue me…

It has been a long time since my last blog…

I’ve been quite busy with work and some other things…

So here I go again…

Do you believe in loveafter love? It may not be easy to fall in love after a painful relationship…  It usually takes time before you can go on with your life… Granted that you’ve moved on already and finally meet someone new… Will you be able to accept the rejection after a rejection?

These past few days I’ve been thinking… How do you break a broken heart? Is that really possible? 

Have you ever felt happiness and sadness at the same time? Maybe one after the other… one minute you are so happy and the next minute you are so sad… what’s funny is that the reason why you are happy is also the reason why you are sad… crazy right? What do you do then? Stay? Leave? Wait? Pray? Whatever it is that you will be doing… I am sure it will hurt… if you stay… it will hurt to see the one you love, love someone else… if you leave… it will hurt not have the one you love with you… if you wait… it will hurt to see that you are waiting for nothing… if you pray… it will hurt to find out that even God does not permit it… What should you do? Choose… Life is all about making choices… and living up to that choice… blaming no one if your choice did not work out… thanking no one if you become successful….

Love is really vague… you can gather all the words in Webster and still you will not be able to fully explain what love is… All I know is… love is being happy and sometimes you are lonely too,,, but even if there is pain in your heart you still chose to take your chances… there is love after love…

i know that it is hard to find someone who wil never make you cry… i’ve never met anyone who never made anyone cry… everyone in this world has hurt someone’s feeling… either consciously or unconciously… hurting someone unconciously is worst than hurting someone consciously. with latter case atleast you know what to tell the person unlike hurting that person unconciously, you are not aware… hence you continue doing the same things you do to that person because you do not know that you are hurting his/her feeling. But the irony of it is that you really aren’t doing anything bad at all, it’s just that the person who is affected is either super sensitive or he/she is just expecting too much from you… nevertheless you should still have the effort to find out what you are hurting that person’s feeling if he/she is important to you… those lil things can have huge impact on that person or on your relationship… making a person feel he/she is important and that you really care about how he/she feels is really something special for the person… always remeber that a person inlove always exagerates the feeling he/she has. the typical battles in a relation is insecurity…. if one does not feel that security that usually ignites jealousy. which leads to unending arguement. eventually the two of you will get tired fighting over little things… to begin with, you are not even suppose to sparring on those matters if one feels secured with the other’s feeling(love). it does not hurt to say to the person you love that she is beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, seductive, very appealing and etc. just like the saying… "love your own…" that makes sense…. why? if you do not practice that you then admit that you have bad taste when it comes to chosing your partner… right?! If your bf/gf is not really a hunk/babe like those models, it does not mean he/she is not a hunk/babe to your eyes… in the first place why did you court her (for men) or why did you say yes (for women) if you do not find him/her attractive… remeber the saying… "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"…. if incase you do not know what BEHOLDER means… it is YOU!!! you are the BEHOLDER!!! You should see the beauty of your partner and not just see… learn to appreciate the effort that the person is doing to pull off the sexy top he/she is wearing, the perfume and etc. Men are not the only ones who should be guilty… yes they sometimes ignore the fact that we have to spend hours to prepare for our date with them. They’ll even end up hating you for taking hours and making them wait long. But us women are guilty of that too… sometimes we think that our men are having an affair whenever they start going gyms, wearing perfume, reading G.Q, more fashiion conscious and the like. Instead of complicating things… why don’t you just tell your partner that he/she is the most beautiful person in the world to your eyes. it may not be a fact but atleast to you it is. no one can ever argue with that… remember… each and every person in this world is unique and that includes the "taste"

continuation…

        Everyday you pretend that you are okay… that you are doing just fine… everytime you talk on the phone, you’d try to fish if he/she still misses you… you’ll end up getting hurt even more… why? he/she replied… "umm… yeah.. kind a…" a simple answer wrecked the days, weeks, months and years of moving on. The very reason why you are hurting is not even bothered… saddest thing that can even happen is seing the person very happy with his/her new companion… the rude awakening is there.. do you face it or do you run from it? what you thought was forever and happily ever after is now a nightmare that is haunting you day and night…

        well i thought it was forever not til the day i woke up and realized he is gone… i set him free to give him all the space he needs,,, it was my decision to call it off… it was not because the love was gone… i knew that he was already having hard time balancing his studies, family and friends maybe… i can’t compete with his family… who would? and definitely i cant afford to see him lose the only thing he has been wanting to have…

        sacrificing the one thing i am best (loving him) at is not that easy to do… everyday i ask myself did i do the right thing? i guess i’ll only know when he is already what he wants to be…

       right now… it does not really matter that my dream did not come true,,, my dream of being with you forever… marrying you… all that really matters is that you fulfil your dreams… every pain i feel-feeling-felt (not sure if i am still in pain, moving on or moved on when that happens)… is worthy…

i thought it was forever… well, i learned that it is… the sacrifice will forever affect his life… and i guess that is a part of my love that will stay with him forever… atleast i helped out making him a better person… and again i hope that stays forever…

it’s painful to wake up and find out that things will defintely never be the same again… you love a person and give up almost everything to have all the time in the world for him/her… you plan the next years of your life thinking that he/she will be there to fulfill his/her part of your plan…

but unfortunately the happy moments that you are sharing with him/her are slowly falling apart… you wake every morning pretending that nothing is wrong but you know that everythng is wrong…  the daily and per hour text slowly became a from time to time texting/calling and little you know it is now "whenever i am not busy". of course you love the person so much that everything he/she says, you believe with out even questoning what is going on or why is this happenning?…

you’s see yourself indulging in so many things so atleast you give your beloved the time he/she needs to settle/do whatever it is he/she is doing…  so one fine weekend comes and you are expecting to have the Quality Time you’ve been waiting to have the past few daysl… but sad to say that you’ve waited for nothing but arguements and misunderstanding…

Due to the time you’ve spent away from each other… you grew apart… the conversation that both of you try to work out, no longer works out. He pretends he listens and is very much interested and vice versa. Then when one realizes that his/her partner is just pretending that is the start of it…

then you’d conclude that it is not working…  so you talk to your partner and sort things out… you’d still try to work it… so it is now what we often say SSDD (Same Sh!T Different Day)… you patiently wait…

over the week you think and think… until you come to realize that it is really not going to work… so you decide to call it off… both of you agrees that it is better of that way… atleast you guys are friends…

you thought things are ok for you… days pass by and you were able to handle the thought that there is no WE but only you and me…

to be continued…

                We often take our friends forgranted… we think that they should understand everything…  we are forgetting that even our mother(-one who is expected to understand you all the tme) does not often understand what we are going through…

                Now tell me is it fair to expect you friends to understand you no matter what? friends should be your ego buster and at the same time ego booster. ironic but true… we get our confidence from the inspiring words of our dear friends but they too can break your heart with the harsh comments they can give you… crticizing you down to the last drop of your tear. but after all the tears you’d realize that they were trying to piss you off to get out the monster in  you and take action to all the crap you’ve been getting. i don’t mean to say that your friends are turning you into a wacko war freak…

                I am simply saying that friends make us realize things that we can’t realize on our own… we have to be beten up before we start thinking straight. life is all about deciding… what to do, when to do, how to do and etc… we always asks our friend’s opinion, right?… the simpliest question like "what will i wear tonight?" we consult with them.

              Pause for awhile and reflect… try to remember if you never forgot to thank your friend for all the things he/she has done for you… as simple as passing the ketchup or filling your glass with water… because little things are usually the ones remebered… so start thanking your friends for all the things he/she has done for you… a simple favor still deserves a thank you…

             To all my friends who have been there for me… THANK YOU!!! you just don’t know how thankful i am to have you in my life… thanks for all the support you’ve given me… and if by any chance i forgot to say thank you… i am sorry i forgot… thank you for everything!!! i hope i will be able to reciprocate the non-stop support… buzz, text, call, email me if you need me…  i’ll do evrything to get there and be there for a dear friend…

               i am just a psssst away… hehe…. : )